Many permissive parenting effects believe that giving in to their children’s requests is a sign of love. They may also think that avoiding conflict will make their relationship happy and healthy. They are often concerned that if they set limits their child will feel sad, disappointed or upset. But, the truth is that those feelings are a natural part of life and learning to accept them is an important part of emotional intelligence.
These parents may be unable or unwilling to see that their permissive parenting is negatively impacting their child’s well-being. They may have difficulty regulating their own emotions and they may have trouble setting and enforcing boundaries. They may lack the ability to discipline their kids when they behave poorly and frequently use the excuse “kids will be kids.”
The Long-Term Effects of Permissive Parenting on Adult Relationships
Permissive parents tend to view their children as equals and do not treat them with the same respect that they expect from other adults. This type of parenting style can lead to a sense of entitlement in the child and cause them to believe that they are in charge of their parents. This can lead to resentment and even anger later in life.
Often these parents were raised by overly strict or authoritarian parents themselves and they want to give their children the love, connection and autonomy that they never had as kids. They also may have trouble coping with stress and difficult life circumstances and they find it easier to give in to their children’s demands than to face the challenge head on.